For past two weeks I've had a lot of suggestions from different people of what my next blog post should be about. Yes there were some very interesting suggested topics on which i could have reflected upon. Thank you for all the suggestions. But then its my blog and unfortunately (or fortunately) I have the liberty to choose whatever I want to write about.
It took me a lot of time to decide what the heading of this blog should be. Well of course I knew what I wanted to write about. But yes, it took me a while to fix what the heading should be. No its not the most sensitive issues that are rounding your newspapers, or your modern Breaking News crazy, TV channels. Its not a controversial political topic, nor a sports related one, or about publicity stunts of modern entertainers! However its the most common topic that every human being faces in their lives. And no less important than any of the above said sensitive issues.
When I was in standard 6 in school, I clearly remember a certain intelligent, bespectacled boy telling me these words- "friends are the building blocks of life, give them more importance than your cells!" Well! I laughed at his words! We were young then. And that particular phrase wasn't really a common one, in those days (11 years ago!). But as you grow older, I kind of realized what it actually meant (not literally that is).
Lot of people define friendship in their own way, and incredibly everyone has a different opinion of what friends should be like, or what is required to be my friend, or even the qualities a person wants in his ideal/best friend. Its even more stranger that when the question comes about importance of friends, its never the same for people. Well yes of course its understandable, that every one has their own views and different perceptual ability.
But how much do we really value friendship these days?? I am not gonna answer that. people should answer themselves.
I think the question is not, "why friends are important in your life?" rather it should be rephrased as "why friendship is important in your life?" And apparently its not always that much important for everybody! Well of course we tend to value some friends than others. Some are more close than others. while some we trust a bit more. But the basis of it always stays the same, "friendship".
For me its always been like that, fortunately (or unfortunately). Somehow friends have always played an important role in my life.. More so in last 4-5 years. One of my closest friends keeps telling me always that, "all of my friends are important to me, cause we have to live with everybody." I used to oppose him. I mean I could not agree with him. Not completely anyways. But yes if there is some one you call as your close friend, he/she should always be an important person in your life. But of recent times I have seen exceptions as well..
May be I don't see myself as a person who sees all friends d same way, but yes there are some I call as close ones, who are pretty darn important to me. They'll always be.
But i don't think everyone sees Friendship my way. Not everybody gives it the importance that I give. And its a hard fact that I came to know only recently! Why do we take some friends for granted? We call some people as good friends and yet do not feel the need of sharing our time with them. Yes, "a friend in need, is a friend indeed". But these days people have taken this saying quite literally! "Remember your friend, at the time of your need, and when your need is over, forget them!" In that case its not friendship, at all! Its rather using one person to your own will, manipulating him, giving him a false sense of importance, pretending to be friends with him and ultimately forgetting him altogether.
I'm sorry but that's what modern day friendship has come to. Yes of course there are exceptions. There always are and always will. But then, they are exceptions only and not majority.
I dont know if I have made my point clear or not. But I dont think its difficult thing to understand!
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It took me a lot of time to decide what the heading of this blog should be. Well of course I knew what I wanted to write about. But yes, it took me a while to fix what the heading should be. No its not the most sensitive issues that are rounding your newspapers, or your modern Breaking News crazy, TV channels. Its not a controversial political topic, nor a sports related one, or about publicity stunts of modern entertainers! However its the most common topic that every human being faces in their lives. And no less important than any of the above said sensitive issues.
When I was in standard 6 in school, I clearly remember a certain intelligent, bespectacled boy telling me these words- "friends are the building blocks of life, give them more importance than your cells!" Well! I laughed at his words! We were young then. And that particular phrase wasn't really a common one, in those days (11 years ago!). But as you grow older, I kind of realized what it actually meant (not literally that is).
Lot of people define friendship in their own way, and incredibly everyone has a different opinion of what friends should be like, or what is required to be my friend, or even the qualities a person wants in his ideal/best friend. Its even more stranger that when the question comes about importance of friends, its never the same for people. Well yes of course its understandable, that every one has their own views and different perceptual ability.
But how much do we really value friendship these days?? I am not gonna answer that. people should answer themselves.
I think the question is not, "why friends are important in your life?" rather it should be rephrased as "why friendship is important in your life?" And apparently its not always that much important for everybody! Well of course we tend to value some friends than others. Some are more close than others. while some we trust a bit more. But the basis of it always stays the same, "friendship".
For me its always been like that, fortunately (or unfortunately). Somehow friends have always played an important role in my life.. More so in last 4-5 years. One of my closest friends keeps telling me always that, "all of my friends are important to me, cause we have to live with everybody." I used to oppose him. I mean I could not agree with him. Not completely anyways. But yes if there is some one you call as your close friend, he/she should always be an important person in your life. But of recent times I have seen exceptions as well..
May be I don't see myself as a person who sees all friends d same way, but yes there are some I call as close ones, who are pretty darn important to me. They'll always be.
But i don't think everyone sees Friendship my way. Not everybody gives it the importance that I give. And its a hard fact that I came to know only recently! Why do we take some friends for granted? We call some people as good friends and yet do not feel the need of sharing our time with them. Yes, "a friend in need, is a friend indeed". But these days people have taken this saying quite literally! "Remember your friend, at the time of your need, and when your need is over, forget them!" In that case its not friendship, at all! Its rather using one person to your own will, manipulating him, giving him a false sense of importance, pretending to be friends with him and ultimately forgetting him altogether.
I'm sorry but that's what modern day friendship has come to. Yes of course there are exceptions. There always are and always will. But then, they are exceptions only and not majority.
P.S- the picture used above is a copyrighted picture, and any kind of misuse may lead to criminal prosecution.
impressive......but not much new.this happens to everybody's life.what I personally believe is that before making somebody closer you must have to check his/her trust...healthy friendship stands on trust and mutual co-operation.nothing else. but in present day very few person have mutual trust and co-operation to his/her friends. due several factors. most importantly nucleation of family. and lack of mutual co-operation breaks the bonding of trust. that's why it does not last in long run.....
ReplyDeletehmmmm... yeah I agree.. trust, co-operation and mutual understanding, are all that is required, to develop a healthy friendship, something that people lack these days..
ReplyDeletethat's why I named d topic, "it's all about trusting...."
thanks for your comment.. :)